Welcome to Ask A MWLTF (Yes, that’s Mother Who Likes to F*ck.), a monthly anonymous advice column from Scary Mommy. Here we’ll dissect all your burning questions about motherhood, sex, romance, intimacy, and friendship with the help of our columnist, Penelope, a writer and mental health practitioner in training. She’ll dish out her most sound advice for parents on the delicate dance of raising kids without sacrificing other important relationships.
Email her at [email protected]. My ex-husband and I were terrible married partners. We fought constantly, divorced, and became surprisingly good co-parents.
Now, years later, we’ve started sleeping together again. The weird thing is, the sex is better than it was when we were married. We’re more relaxed, more playful, and somehow more honest with each other.
We can flirt and laugh and enjoy being together without falling into the same arguments that made our marriage miserable. We still have kids together, so we see each other all the time, and we’ve managed to build a pretty peaceful routine. The only problem: I’m starting to worry that we’re going to ruin it.
Neither of us want to get back together, and we’re not exactly dating. I don’t even know if he’s seeing other people. I also don’t know how I’d feel if he did.
Part of me thinks this is a great arrangement: we know each other, we have history, and the sex is good. Another part of me wonders if we’re just reopening a door we worked really hard to close. How do I know if this is something we can enjoy without messing up the co-parenting relationship we finally got right?
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