I was driving through the San Fernando Valley on the 101, on my way to work in Hollywood. A few hundred miles north, my mom was hiking near Santa Rosa with her husband, Fred. A few minutes earlier, “Mom calling…” popped up on my CarPlay.
I’d been putting off this conversation. She had postponed a visit just after Christmas; now she was coming in February and planned to sleep in our guest room. Walker had asked for a divorce on Christmas Eve 2025.
By the time my mom texted her arrival details, I had been sleeping down the hall from my husband for weeks. She waited for me to say more. I told her Walker and I were still living together.
He would stay in the house; I was looking for a condo. Just before the call disconnected, I heard her turn toward Fred. I would find a condo in a good area.
The furniture would be in place before she arrived. The guest bed would be made. She would walk in and see that I had built a life that worked without him.
A couple of days before she came, I read Matthew Vines’s New York Times essay “I’m Gay, Not Queer. It Matters,” which argued that gay acceptance had depended in part on showing Americans that being gay wasn’t a rebellion against ordinary life. I understood why it made people angry.
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