I’ve been playing Kacey Musgraves’s “Dry Spell” on repeat lately. So much so that I think I manifested writing this article. Personally, I would have preferred to manifest the end of a dry spell, but a commission will do.
And if a beautiful, successful, world-renowned country superstar can find herself singing about a sexual drought, the rest of us can stop treating ours as a personal failure. Of course, sometimes the person you want to have sex with is right there. Asking whether you paid the electric bill.
Somehow, making a move on someone who has seen you naked approximately a thousand times now feels intimidating. The longer it’s been, the easier it is to turn the next encounter into a referendum on your entire relationship. But reconnecting can begin with something much smaller: an honest conversation, a kiss without expectations, or figuring out what you both want now.
A dry spell is a stretch when you’re having less sex than you’re used to—or none at all. There’s no universal countdown that makes it official. What feels like a noticeable departure for one couple might be business as usual for another.
It can happen when you love your partner and still think they’re hot. Stress, exhaustion, caregiving, mental health struggles, illness, medication, and hormonal changes can all get in the way. Sometimes there’s unresolved resentment or sex that hasn’t been particularly satisfying.
For one of my best friends, a roughly nine-month dry spell with her husband coincided with both of them struggling with their mental health. Sex wasn’t the only thing that disappeared. Making out and cuddling fell away too, leaving mostly hello-and-goodbye kisses.
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