Maybe you've been curious for a while, maybe your partner brought it up, or maybe you've already tried it and are wondering if there's a way to make the whole experience feel a little less…intense. Whatever brought you here, welcome. Despite what porn (or that one friend who insists they're an expert) might have you believe, there's a lot more to anal sex than just sticking something up there and hoping for the best.
And unfortunately, actual information about how to do it safely and enjoyably isn't always easy to come by. Whether you're a total beginner or looking to make your next experience better than your last, we've got the expert-backed tips on prep, pleasure, positions, and everything else you should know before getting down to butt business. First things first: Anal sex isn't just about penetration.
And when someone uses a strap-on to penetrate their partner anally, that's often called pegging. For this guide, we're mostly talking about penetrative anal sex, whether that's with a penis or a strap-on. But if penetration isn't your thing, that's fine, too.
There's plenty of butt-related fun to be had without it. There are three main types of preparation you’re going to want to consider before having anal sex: physical (i.e., making sure your anus/rectum is physically ready for penetration), hygienic (doing what you can to reduce the risk of any poop-related incidents—which, by the way, are far less likely than you may fear; more on that to come), and last but certainly not least, mental and emotional (communicating with your partner, establishing enthusiastic consent, and setting boundaries). Some of this prep can happen in the days and hours leading up to an anal encounter, and some of it can take weeks or even be more of an ongoing practice for those who receive anal penetration frequently.
Let’s make one thing clear: Anal sex should not be painful. Here are some tips for opening up the backdoor. Understanding anal anatomy is a crucial first step that will help you feel better prepared for anal play and more aware of the sensations you’ll experience.
The external sphincter sits just inside the opening and can be voluntarily contracted and relaxed. A little deeper, you’ll find the internal sphincter, which operates involuntarily—similar to your heartbeat or blood pressure. While you can’t consciously control it, you can encourage it to relax by breathing deeply, staying calm, and focusing on pleasure.” Achieving this level of relaxation is super important for pleasurable anal play.
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