In TV and movies, the heterosexual sex scene usually plays out this way: the man gets on top of the woman, enters her, and then makes her orgasm in the matter of a few strokes. If you are a woman living in reality, this is almost never the case. Only 18 percent of women can achieve orgasm through penetration alone.
For the rest of the population, it’s typically clitoral stimulation or some form of combination of both that are needed to get there. Okay, so a lot of us know this already. But often, when we talk about the importance of clitoral stimulation, we speak about it as a means of orgasm.
And while we love the big O, she’s not all there is to pleasurable, satisfying sex. The orgasm is just one part of sex (even if it is a super strong one). All of the parts of the sex that lead up to an orgasm—and yes, even after one—should be enjoyable as well.
And for some women, the clitoris is a lot more than just a means of climax—it may be the only part of sex that really feels physically pleasurable. Now, this isn’t to say that women don’t enjoy penetrative sex. For many women, penetrative sex is hot, fun, and just really delicious.
But for some, it’s not the physical act of P in V that makes them moan and sigh. Something being pleasurable doesn’t necessarily mean it’s orgasmic. Something doesn’t have to make you come—or even feel particularly intense—to be something you enjoy during sex.
It's just not the most physical, the most sensation, or the most pleasure.” For some women, the physical sensation of penetration may be relatively subtle compared with what they experience from external stimulation. I personally get a lot of really yummy sensations during penetrative sex, but I have friends that don’t. Everyone has a different anatomy, so what feels great for one person can feel just “okay” to another.
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