And for the most part, I’ve been excited about taking the next step in our relationship: Getting to wake up and go to sleep with each other, being part of each other’s daily routine, and, of course, splitting the bills (groceries are so expensive). But there’s one aspect of our relationship I’ve been thinking about a lot: our sex life. Currently, my boyfriend and I are like rabbits.
We’re constantly trying to get into each other’s pants (and succeeding). Even when we spend a week together at a time, we can expect to have sex anywhere from 2-4 times a day (and yes, I’m bragging). But I am as realistic as I am horny.
And I know that when you live with someone, see each other every day, and combine your lives together, your sex life can change. Davis, LMFT tells Cosmopolitan. When you’re dating, the time you spend together is often planned, which can create anticipation and excitement.
Cohabitation, on the other hand, introduces all the less-than-sexy realities of adulthood: work schedules, chores, bills, and the general exhaustion of being a person with responsibilities. Resentment and feeling overwhelmed can also affect desire, particularly when one partner feels they’re carrying more of the household responsibilities. This obviously made me very nervous.
But Davis explains that this doesn’t mean your sex life is doomed. For some couples, having more privacy and fewer logistical hurdles means more opportunities to have sex. For others, being in constant proximity can take some of the novelty out of sex.
Other couples find themselves going through phases of both. Ashley, 29, has been with her husband for five years and living together for three. Before moving in, they had sex around four to five times a week, which made sense given how often they saw each other.
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